Q&A: "How do you feel about adding a third into your relationship? What worries or thoughts do you have on it?"

Adding a third to our relationship is a big step in our lives. There is allot that would change and allot that would not. Right now of course we aren’t ready for it being as we are still starting out with things in our lives such as getting settled and making plans for the future. In time we have been through so much both good and bad, and now adding a new face into the mitts of things is a new challenge that we wish to try out in time of course. Upon my last posting we had not decided weather to have a boy or a girl be our play pet for our home to share in our fun and love in our relationship and lives. As such now we have chosen a “Fem-boy” to be part of us and he’s a kind and new and gentle heart we can mold into or own taste and style of life.

There are some worries I have and some concerns but not many to my own surprise. One of my concerns is his distance from us and his lack of mental knowledge of the lifestyle. Although he is still learning to like certain things I have this overwhelming feeling that maybe he is more vanilla then kinky and I worry he may get in t deep and be hurt and not recover. Even though we are careful and always ask him to speak his mind I just hope he does so always so he is not holding back and gets hurt because he wishes to please more then speak of how he feels about a situation. Our boy may like to be “Feminine” but I am not sure if there is more in him then that or chastity to his liking. As for his distance I know in time that will or might change but my concern is for now he is far away and maybe far away for a good while. 

It will be hard to keep and eye on him and help him in certain ways because of how far he is and I worry we wont be able to keep up or help him in certain ways. His lack of knowledge in the lifestyle will of course change with time and training this I know and am aware of, but for some reason I cant shake a strange feeling that maybe he will only nudge a very little bit into kink life and not allot which is fine to me so long as we are all happy together.